This is two posts in one – in the first I talk about my masturbation fantasies – which are all I have in the way of actual sex at the moment, in the second my past experiences/ emerging desires. The former relies on a modified version of doggy style, the latter various doggy style approaches and possibilities I’ve experienced or would like to experience, perhaps in conjunction with my new passion, bondage.
My masturbation fantasies are complex. I’ve mentioned before that I tend to switch during a masturbation session, sometimes several times given that they often go for a couple of hours. What I’m not sure I’ve mentioned before is that when I mentally switch I also change genders. Given that I tend to use vibrators and dildo’s I suppose it makes some sense. So while I might start out with a desire to be penetrated as a woman, by someone who I might have a connection with in real life it eventually becomes a desire to be the one doing the fucking – from an amorphous position of male dominance. (I think the switch starts to occur when I begin topping from the bottom, demanding certain acts).
My fantasies along these lines nearly always involve sex in a chair, couch or bed edge with my dominant male self seated and my submissive female self pinned in a seated reverse cowgirl on my lap. While not technically doggy style it is a rear entry position. (In reality I am on my side with vibes/dildos inserted in both orifices). This position allows me to reach my/her A and G spots, and gives me a intense filled sensation. Often I don’t need to move either toy much, the filthy self talk and the sensation of dominance and submission all at once will send me over the edge. Holding hard onto my imaginary alter’s hips, dangling her or thrusting upward into her with my cock, fucking her arse with the toy and somehow miraculously sucking and fingering her clit (thank you clitstim) all feature as the fantasy unfolds.
Oddly I’m sometimes quite cautious of the traditional doggy style in real life because on occasion my partner has hit the cervix head on or an over-enthusiast cock has caught the skin at the rear of my vaginal entrance. There’s pain and there’s agony…
However I do enjoy a lowered down version of doggy style but with pillows under my hips and a more flattened positioning than the original. With this approach I feel very dominated especially if his arms are hooked under my shoulders so he can impale me more effectively – although it can play havoc with my asthma. I’m not sure how sexy wheezing is, really.
A long, slow, determined fuck with my legs close together increases contact and friction, and provides an opportunity to threaten me with extended play. One of my hot button sentences during masturbation is the threat/promise “I’m gonna take my time and fuck you all night (and there’s nothing you can do about it)”.
Most of my partners have been considerably taller than I am but lately I’ve been wondering how rear entry sex would go with a partner of a similar height, especially when holding onto or handcuffed to a bedhead, or up against a wall. But for now that remains pure speculation.
Spooning is another ballgame and to me generally signals intimacy, slow or deliciously lazy/erotic sex and oral exploration of the sensitive areas of my neck and shoulders as well as the electricity of the “claiming hug”. While I also enjoy the opportunities for my partner to also lay claim to my front in this position, I also want to be able to touch him, and so I find this a little limiting, unless I twist sideways with my legs over his hip – but that’s probably nothing any self respecting doggy would do.
Although of course, finally and deliciously there is also pegging, this enables me to engage in all of the activities mentioned above while stimulating his balls, cock, belly, nipples etc. It allows me the chance to dominate as my female self. Spooning is one of my preferred positions to do this to/with a partner and I think a chest harness would come in very hand here as well. As I move further into rope play I can see fantasies of dominating/pegging/edging him while he is tied coming into my imaginary games.
A woman can dream…
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